Reflections From Sunday Evening - the art of saying no

This idea goes against my basic ideas. I want to specialize in affirmation, encouragement and saying yes to opportunities. In Christ we learn that the response is YES.
With that said here is a thought about the fine art of saying no. Sometimes the gracious thing to say is no.
"Dad. Can I go jump out of the top of the tree?" "No."
Sometimes it is easy to tell our children no. We know it is in their best interests.
But things get more complex as we move through life. When is it best to say no in the context of the life of faith?
We have many people come by church seeking assistance in various forms. Frankly we help the majority of people. Sometimes we wonder if their story is true. Still we seek to error on the side of grace. But there come times when it becomes clear to us that someone is abusing the grace offered. That is when we say no.
I find myself in a position in our conference where people offer themselves for ministry in the church. The group I work with is responsible for discerning a person's call. There are times when the best response is saying no. Here is another way to serve.
We learn to say no to ourselves. We say no to self-destructive behavior. We say no to things that would harm us or others. We say no to the kind of self indulgence that will come back to hurt us. At least we hope we can say no.
It is a fine art to be able to say no in ways that build up rather than tear down.
There are times when saying no is the best way to encourage and affirm so people find the best of God's will.
We had a great day at church. Some long time friends visited and we were able to go to lunch. Always a joy to renew friendship.
Worship was alive.
It has been good to be with God's people today.
I hope you've had a good day too.
steve